Breaking up with Anxiety — Solace Bodyworks & Wellness, LLC

Talking about Anxiety is a very personal thing for me. It's something I've struggled with and tried to hide for as long as I can remember, even being a child. I remember crying and feeling a wave of panic when my family would take a trip. This fear of never seeing my home again as my parents drove us out of the driveway, and trying to hide the fact that I was so upset because I felt stupid for being scared. 8 yr old me would say to myself "Why are you scared? Nobody else is scared. You packed all of your clothes, etc and didn't forget anything. You're going to do something fun. People love taking trips. You should be happy. Stop crying. People will see you and think you're stupid. STOP CRYING"

I remember thinking those thoughts, but writing them down and reading it is hard to do because it's difficult to admit that I spoke to myself that harshly, and that I often still do.

I've spent so much time in my life trying to hide my anxiety, feeling I was irrational for being scared. Not understanding where it's coming from. Why does everyone else seem fine and I'm freaking out inside? There's so much that I have come to learn in the last few years about myself and what has caused my anxiety, depression, and panic attacks. This journey continues and is always moving forward. I don't have all the answers, but I have learned a few skills that have helped me tremendously and have decided to dedicate my time helping others rid themselves of it.

The first thing I've learned is that there is no "one fix" for everyone. Anxiety is as diverse as the individuals experiencing it and it requires different approaches to cope. I have tried medications, EFT, meditation, therapy courses, nutritional changes, exercise, picking up a new hobby, pets, etc.. The list goes on and on. Each one helped in it's own way, but I never felt any real progress.

I've learned that having patience and compassion is important for someone that is dealing with anxiety. Having the space and understanding of my family or friends allows me to pull myself out of it before it gains momentum. It doesn't mean I want people to treat me like I'm delicate or incompetent, it just means to give me the room to breathe and pull out of it. Having those emotions and being in a stressful situation or being pushed/rushed only adds fuel to the fire.

I learned a large part of my fears didn't even belong to me. I was feeling them from people around me. I learned that I am empathetic and sometimes my anger wasn't mine, it was the mailman's that I just spoke to. My sadness about a relationship wasn't mine, it belonged to a friend of mine going through a divorce. I had to learn to recognize my own emotions separate from those around me. Something I'm still perfecting today.

Some of my anxieties were emotions that I'd trapped and held onto from traumas and heart break. They were trapped within my body and I carried them around like old & ugly luggage, making me ill. In fact I gave myself a very real heart condition that required life saving surgery. Emotions are powerful and can cause physical symptoms, if you doubt it, any cardiologist will tell you stress increases your likelihood of heart disease.

Then there were some emotions that were passed down and inherited from family, called inherited emotions. I learned that I am able to clear those out using the Emotion Code and by default, clearing them from our family. My children will never have to deal with these issues. I'm sure they'll have other issues (Don't we all, haha) but this won't be one of them! This has by far been the biggest shift in my quest for balance and ridding myself of anxiety.

Learning to listen to my intuition has gotten me much further than "thinking logically". When I start my day feeling connected to the real me, I feel much more balanced. Really all anxiety is, is feeling like something's way off balance. Learning to trust your gut is key, it's your guide through life and has never sent me down the wrong path. Muscle testing is a skill I've learned to be able to ask questions and get guidance. I recommend everyone learn, even children can do it.

I don't want to present myself as having all the answers in life, because that couldn't be further from the truth, but I do have a very valuable set of skills that I'm hoping to share and help anyone who could use it. Almost all of us know a person who has anxiety, whether or not they share it with you is another story. My anxiety still shows up maybe once a day instead of a constant stream of chaos and terror. I no longer have depression and rarely have a panic attack (they used to come multiple times a day). The skills I am learning have helped me tremendously, and I want to help as many people as i can clear out the old emotions so that they can move forward. If you're carrying stress and trauma with you, you don't have to. Be willing to let it go.

If you want to learn how I've done this for myself feel free to reach out. If you've had any experiences with anxiety, depression, or panic attacks and have some helpful tips, leave some love in the comments for someone who could use it.

As always, thanks for reading! Love to you. 🙂